Golden Rule

We often want behavior from others that we are unwilling to offer. We ask for respect for our beliefs about life, but judge contrary philosophies as bizarre. We expect forgiveness for our “accidental” harmful actions and words but never let others forget that they intentionally and deliberately hurt us. We demand love but aren’t loveable.

We can’t get what we don’t give…make withdrawals where we haven’t made deposits…reap what we haven’t sown…

So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.” Mathew 7:12

Inhale Compassion, Exhale Apathy…
Inhale Empathy, Exhale Judgment…
Inhale Respect, Exhale Disdain…
Just Breathe…

#JustBreathe
Reflections With Renita

Happy

Never, ever again will you tell me it takes you to make me happy.” ~ Carly and Martina Shipp.

These are some of the lyrics from a song I recently heard called “Make Me Happy.” Now fifteen, the authors, musicians Carly and Martina Shipp, wrote the song when they were thirteen. Watch the video here!

Like a lot of the songs I discovered when I visited their website, it is a call to chose empowerment from two young people who are very clear about who gets to make that choice. And I just marveled at their ability to recognize this powerful concept…they are responsible for their own happiness.

“Happiness depends upon ourselves.” ~ Aristotle

Inhale Clarity, Exhale Confusion…
Inhale Happiness, Exhale Discouragement…
Inhale Peace, Exhale Chaos…
Just Breathe…

#JustBreathe
Reflections With Renita

Renewal

Today I am grateful for the resurrection that gave hope to the hopeless. In this season of renewal in the midst of confusion and fear, I am praying for sufficient strength to be hopeful, effective faith to believe, and enough compassion to be loving…

Inhale Faith, Exhale Hopelessness…
Inhale Inclusion, Exhale Exclusion…
Inhale Compassion, Exhale Separation…
Just Breathe…

#JustBreathe
Reflections With Renita

Do It NOW

The Creator has created you to Her specifications, with Her characteristics, for Her purpose. You already have everything you need…what are you waiting on?

We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world.” ~ Marianne Williamson, “A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles”.

Inhale Magnificence, Exhale Insignificance…
Inhale Worthiness, Exhale Unworthiness…
Inhale Love, Exhale Fear…
Just Breathe

#JustBreathe
Reflections With Renita

Experience

Our own experience is crucial to our development. The positive experiences reinforce behavior and the negative experiences teach us what not to do, if we are able to learn from them.

But it takes awareness to recognize the patterns that lead to negative outcomes and see the possibility of something different.

It takes courage to take responsibility for the choice and choose something different.

It takes hope to understand the consequence of the choice and want something different.

Inhale Awareness, Exhale Oblivion…
Inhale Courage, Exhale Status quo
Inhale Hope, Exhale Despair…
Just Breathe…

#JustBreathe
Reflections With Renita

Correction

Good or bad, we often expect our closets friends and family to co-sign our actions. And when they do, we love their loyalty, and when they don’t, we decry their betrayal.

But is the person who agrees with our negative behavior really a friend? And is the person who calls us out for behaving badly truly an enemy?

Inhale Love, Exhale Pretense…
Inhale Truth, Exhale Deceit…
Inhale Authenticity, Exhale Insincerity…
Just Breathe…

#JustBreathe
Reflections With Renita

Feedback

Feedback is hard to hear. And it’s not just the negative stuff we have a hard time hearing; studies show that even comments that could be considered complimentary are hard for many of us to accept. That’s because, according to author Shelia Heen, most “people actively seek to verify their own perceptions of themselves”, whether those perceptions are positive or negative. We all want to be accepted for who we THINK we are.

But since we don’t get to hear or see ourselves or feel our energy, feedback can be very helpful IF we can receive it well.

Inhale Listening, Exhale Ignoring…
Inhale Receiving, Exhale Rejecting…
Inhale Accepting, Exhale Denying…
Just Breathe…

#JustBreathe
Reflections With Renita

Hurtful Words

I once dated a guy who would make “jokes” at my expense. When I complained, he would defend himself and accuse me of being overly sensitive. I finally realized his behavior for what it was…abuse.

People who shrug off deliberate deceptions,
saying, “I didn’t mean it, I was only joking,”
Are worse than careless campers
who walk away from smoldering campfires.” Proverbs 26:18-19 MSG

Inhale Honor, Exhale Dishonor…
Inhale Respect, Exhale Deception …
Inhale Integrity, Exhale Duplicity…
Just Breathe…

#JustBreathe
Reflections With Renita

Careless Words

Be impeccable with your word.” ~ don Miguel Ruiz.

Have you noticed how one negative comment can negate a thousand positive praises? Like any decision, what we decide to say has consequences. Likewise, NOT deciding, intending or being deliberate and conscious about the possible impact of our words is also a choice.

How people receive and respond to what we say is their responsibility. Making sure we share our words in truth AND love is our responsibility.

Watch the way you talk. Let nothing foul or dirty come out of your mouth. Say only what helps, each word a gift.” ~ Ephesians 4:29 MSG

Inhale Intention, Exhale Insincerity…
Inhale Clarity, Exhale Carelessness…
Inhale Responsibility, Exhale Recklessness…
Just Breathe…

#JustBreathe
Reflections With Renita

Lessons

I’m a learner. I’ve course corrected many times on my life journey to incorporate the lessons learned from experience, mine and others, and the consequences of my choices, good and bad.

I’m also a helper, so I try to share those life lessons, especially when I see folks going through something similar. But I’ve learned that for some people, the only lessons retained are those learned through experience. And that is perfectly okay.

We cannot drink only of happiness or sorrow and have life remain life.” Mark Nepo, The Book of Awakening

Inhale Experience, Exhale Ignorance…
Inhale Consequences, Exhale Confusion…
Inhale Retention, Exhale Destruction…
Just Breathe…

#JustBreathe
Reflections With Renita