When I forgive, I free others and myself from past behavior, mistakes and regret. I’ve found that forgiving benefits all aspects of my life… from my relationships, and my health to my ability to focus energy on what I’m here to do.
Forgiveness removes hurt and resentment and allows me to see clearly to a much brighter future.
“When you forgive you don’t change the past, you change the future.” Rev. Mark Anthony Lord
Forgiveness has been at the forefront of my experience over the past few years. And I’ve gotten really clear that being able to forgive others is about me…that I can forgive without another person doing anything…that forgiveness is freedom.
“As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn’t leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I’d still be in prison.” ~ Nelson Mandela
I’m a fitness instructor with bad knees. My clients are often surprised to see me taking an elevator instead of the stairs after a class. I don’t take the stairs because walking up and especially down stairs puts a lot of strain on my knees. I save my knees for demonstrating the best form when I’m teaching and being in the best form when I’m taking class.
My knees let me know when I’ve gone too far. My knees are the reason I challenge my clients to push themselves to THEIR limit versus what I might think they can do. Because each client is the only one who really knows if she’s pushing herself, challenging what’s comfortable and living up to her potential.
In life as in fitness, you are the only one who knows if you’re giving it your best shot or just coasting. And you’re the only one who has to answer for you.
“The journey to wholeness requires that you look honestly, openly, and with courage into yourself, into the dynamics that lie behind what you feel, what you perceive, what you value, and how you act.” ~ Gary Zukav
I’ve seen some people live this saying as if they can ONLY learn through their own experienced mistakes. And while I concede those lessons tend to be the most enduring, I wonder sometimes how much smoother our lives would be if we could just apply the lessons from someone else’s experience…
But then I’m reminded that life is not necessarily supposed to be smooth all the time. The life lessons gained through good and bad experiences help us get to who we’re supposed to be.
“Out of the cacophony of random suffering and chaos that can mark human life, the life artist sees or creates a symphony of meaning and order. A life of wholeness does not depend on what we experience. Wholeness depends on how we experience our lives.” ~ Desmond Tutu
“Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” ~ Carl Jung.
Sometimes when we feel unsure or incomplete, we may look for someone else to approve what we are doing, how we are presenting ourselves … who we are being. But I’ve realized there is nothing external to me that can complete who I am; I have to recognize and acknowledge the God in me to achieve wholeness.
“I am a Divine, magnificent expression of life, and deserve the very best. I accept miracles. I accept healing. I accept wholeness. And most of all, I accept myself. I am precious, and I cherish who I am.” ~ Louise Hay
Have you ever justified staying with someone or in something that is not working for you because of the time, treasure or talent you’ve already invested? Have you ever been wrong about someone you trusted but unable to admit it to those who knew and tried to warn you? Have you ever doubled-down even in the face of overwhelming evidence that what you believe is untrue?
Our level of denial often reflects our level of commitment. The more committed we are, the harder it is to admit when we are wrong.
“It’s easier to fool people than to convince them they have been fooled.” –Mark Twain
Inhale What is, Exhale What is not… Inhale Evidence, Exhale Illusions… Inhale Reality, Exhale Delusion… Just Breathe…
I’ve been an up close and personal witness to what stepping out in faith looks like.
I’ve seen how limitless our dreams are when we understand why we are dreaming what we are dreaming…how intense our passions when we direct our energy to our purpose…how impactful our purpose when it’s in service to something other, something greater than ourselves.
“But the Master said, “You don’t need more faith. There is no ‘more’ or ‘less’ in faith. If you have a bare kernel of faith, say the size of a poppy seed, you could say to this sycamore tree, ‘Go jump in the lake,’ and it would do it.” Luke 17:6 MSG
You are co-creating your life with every action. Do you like what is manifesting in your life? If so, keep doing what you’re doing. If not, make different choices, choose different actions, and act intentionally to manifest something different.
Whether it’s fitness or leadership or team dynamics or logistics, when I see individuals or organizations struggle, I often want to offer my expertise. But in the gym, I learned that the “correct form” does not look the same for every body; as a mom, I’ve learned that even the best advice might be ignored if it’s unsolicited, and since becoming a coach, I understand that at our core, we have the answers to our issues.
So now, only when asked, I really try to focus on helping others discover their inner knowing.
“To rescue people from the natural consequences of their behavior is to render them powerless.” ~ Henry Cloud