I couldn’t understand how my friend who had endured an egregious breach of trust in her relationship was considering reconciliation.
And then I remembered the arguments I had with my parents as I determined if I needed to end my abusive marriage. The decision seemed obvious to them but I had a lot that I needed to consider, most importantly, the welfare of my child. I needed time to reflect, not pressure from people who would not have to live with my decision.
And I apologized to my friend for questioning her process.
““Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?” Mathew 7: 3-4, NIV
Inhale Compassion, Exhale Judgment… Inhale My Own Business, Exhale Hypocrisy… Inhale Self-Reflection, Exhale Oblivion… Just Breathe
There was no blame for the housing industry which has made it difficult for a person with one minimum wage job to afford a place to live or energy companies which are enjoying record setting profits while charging record-setting prices or any other entity which has contributed to a higher cost of living in this country.
Nope. All blame was directed at workers trying to keep their heads above water.
In my alternate Wakandan universe, the Black Panther (T’Challa) and Eric “Killmonger” Stevens, (N’Jadaka) work through their ideological differences, reconcile as cousins, and rule together…one inviting risk, pushing the edge of the envelope…one providing the care and compassion all followers long for in their leaders…
“The world is changing. Soon there will only be the conquered and the conquerors. You are a good man, with a good heart. And it’s hard for a good man to be a king.” ~ King T’Chaka, Black Panther
Inhale Passion, Exhale Status Quo… Inhale Compassion, Exhale Cruelty.. Inhale Collaborator, Exhale Conqueror… Just Breathe…
A friend expressed sadness over #45’s reaction to the latest school shooting, wishing desperately that “just once” there would be a more presidential response. I think he was looking for some demonstrated empathy.
That fear of retaliation is at the core of the gun debate…it’s why hate groups have found a safe haven in those institutions initially created to hunt slaves and why the FBI has never referred to the KKK as a terrorist group but recently labeled those peacefully protesting the violence against black bodies “black identity extremists” and warned that police attacks on black Americans could spur “premeditated, retaliatory lethal violence” against the police.
It’s a fear that’s rooted in fantasy, not reality, and yet has resulted in real oppression, real harassment, and real deaths.
“What a world this will be when human possibilities are freed, when we discover each other, when the stranger is no longer the potential criminal and the certain inferior!” ~ W. E. B. Du Bois
You would think a career criminal turned crusading Christian might have some compassion for the children brought here illegally by parents seeking a better life…but you would be wrong. As I recently discovered, like many evangelicals, this former drug dealer is practicing the religion of white supremacy.
I wonder how he would feel if his children had to bear the consequences of HIS criminal activity…
“Teacher, which command in God’s Law is the most important?” Jesus said, “‘Love the Lord your God with all your passion and prayer and intelligence.’ This is the most important, the first on any list. But there is a second to set alongside it: ‘Love others as well as you love yourself.’ These two commands are pegs; everything in God’s Law and the Prophets hangs from them.” Matthew 22: 36-40
I saw a post from a fellow, former military member who was tired of seeing posts about race. What privilege it is to be tired of READING about race…to be exhausted from SEEING images of people harassed, arrested and murdered because of their skin color…to be weary of HEARING about race-based religious persecution.
Maybe instead of wishing the marginalized in America would accept their status and keep their persecution to themselves, those who aren’t having the same experiences could exercise a little empathy and effect some change.
“Don’t just stand by when your neighbor’s life is in danger…” Leviticus 19:16, MSG
Have you ever watched someone you’re close to make a stupid choice and wondered, “Why can’t she see this is NOT going to turn out well?”
I’ve done that…and then I remember the stupid thing I did when I didn’t pay attention to my accountability partners or my own inner knowing…my God voice whispering, then shouting… “Don’t. Do It!”
And I work on being a little more compassionate…
“It’s easy to see a smudge on your neighbor’s face and be oblivious to the ugly sneer on your own. Do you have the nerve to say, ‘Let me wash your face for you,’ when your own face is distorted by contempt?” Matthew 7: 3-4 MSG
We often want behavior from others that we are unwilling to offer. We ask for respect for our beliefs about life, but judge contrary philosophies as bizarre. We expect forgiveness for our “accidental” harmful actions and words but never let others forget that they intentionally and deliberately hurt us. We demand love but aren’t loveable.
We can’t get what we don’t give…make withdrawals where we haven’t made deposits…reap what we haven’t sown…
“So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.” Mathew 7:12