My Best Me

At some point along my fitness journey, I discovered my physical health was impacted by and impacted my mental, emotional and spiritual health. So my focus became challenging myself to be the best me I could be…the least stressed, calmest, most aware, fearless, peaceful, holistically healthy version of myself so I could do what I was supposed to be doing.

“Self-care is never a selfish act—it is simply good stewardship of the only gift I have, the gift I was put on earth to offer to others.” ~ Parker Palmer

Inhale Growth, Exhale Destruction…
Inhale Development, Exhale Decay…
Inhale Activity, Exhale Death…
Just Breathe

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A Grown Woman

In 1944, 19-year-old Lauren Bacall starred in the movie “To Have and Have Not” with Humphrey “Bogie” Bogart in the lead role. The pair sizzled on screen and then off and nobody questioned their age difference or thought the pairing was odd or decried the loss of her adolescence.

That’s because in the eyes of post WWII society, Lauren Bacall was grown.

It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves that will make them successful human beings.” ~ Ann Landers

Inhale Developed, Exhale Delayed…
Inhale Mature, Exhale Immature…
Inhale Fully-Grown, Exhale Over-Indulged…
Just Breathe

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Evolution

I was looking through a carefully constructed album of pictures of me put together by my mom and I noticed how my smile seemed to evolve over the years.

The introverted book worm who felt compelled to read everything, even cereal boxes, evolved into the ambiverted cheerleader who needed to express herself through movement, who turned into the military officer known for smiling, actually laughing loudly and frequently.

And since all of those versions of me sill exist, maybe the evolution was my confidence in and comfort with all aspects of my personality.

Inhale Growth, Exhale Fear…
Inhale Awareness, Exhale Fear…
Inhale Confidence, Exhale Fear…
Just Breathe

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Risk Adverse

I’ve been writing a lot about the struggles we face on the way to being who we are purposed to be…those experiences we experienced as negative when they happened that turned our lives around; the choices we made that taught us what wouldn’t work; the tremendous effort expended that didn’t turn out as expected but showed us what we were capable of.

Yet as parents, we often try to shield our children from these very experiences, which enable their development…to their and our detriment…

Children learn to navigate risks—not through discussions or TV shows—but by actually taking risks.” ~ Tim Elmore, Growing Leaders.

Inhale Risk, Exhale Suffocation…
Inhale Adversity, Exhale Suppression…
Inhale Development, Exhale Strangulation…
Just Breathe…

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Resilience

When I think of some of the people I most admire, people who are applying their passion to a solving a problem in the world, it’s usually not just because of the amazing work they are doing. Or even their demonstrated courage to step out and live their dreams.

I admire the people I admire often because they’ve overcome obstacles to achieve their dreams. Some have overcome low expectations, some have escaped the prison of poverty, and others have survived near death experiences…and their experiences seem to have made them stronger, resilient…fearless.

Out of massive suffering emerged the strongest souls; the most massive character are seared with scars.” ~ Khalil Gibran

Inhale Difficulty, Exhale Defeat…
Inhale Adversity, Exhale Inaction…
Inhale Suffering, Exhale Stopping…
Just Breathe

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Forgiveness is Freedom

When I forgive, I free others and myself from past behavior, mistakes and regret. I’ve found that forgiving benefits all aspects of my life… from my relationships, and my health to my ability to focus energy on what I’m here to do.

Forgiveness removes hurt and resentment and allows me to see clearly to a much brighter future.

When you forgive you don’t change the past, you change the future.” Rev. Mark Anthony Lord

Inhale Forgiveness, Exhale Victimization…
Inhale Freedom, Exhale Blame…
Inhale Future, Exhale Past…
Just Breathe

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Help

I’m a helper.

Whether it’s fitness or leadership or team dynamics or logistics, when I see individuals or organizations struggle, I often want to offer my expertise. But in the gym, I learned that not everyone wants to be in the correct form; as a mom, I’ve learned that even the best advice might be ignored if it’s unsolicited, and since becoming a coach, I understand that at our core, we have the answers to our issues.

So now, only when asked, I really try to focus on helping others discover their inner knowing.

To rescue people from the natural consequences of their behavior is to render them powerless.” ~ Henry Cloud

Inhale Risk, Exhale Rescue…
Inhale Development, Exhale Disempowerment…
Inhale Falling, Exhale Failure…
Just Breathe

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Permission to Speak

Someone recently requested a favor of me, a favor that would have inconvenienced me. I was assured I could say NO… which I promptly did.

The giving of permission to refuse stood out not because it wasn’t required but because it reflects a reality– we often do things we don’t want to do because we give more weight to other’s feelings than our own.

But what I’ve learned as I mature is you aren’t obligated to do things that don’t serve your greatest good, you aren’t required to say yes to anything not in your best interests, and you don’t need permission to say no.

“No” is a complete sentence.” ~ Anne Lamott

Inhale Freedom, Exhale Obligation…
Inhale Empowerment, Exhale Compulsion…
Inhale Boundaries, Exhale Burdens…
Just Breathe

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Becoming

A young adult friend of mine decided a roommate situation was not a good fit, then agreed to it anyway. She felt the pressure of trying to help a friend in a way that ended up putting strains on and almost ending the friendship.

It was a hard lesson about listening to her instincts…a tough reminder that every individual intuitively knows what is best for her and becoming who you are supposed to become takes courage.

Who you’re becoming is far more important than what you’re doing, and yet it is what you’re doing that’s determining who you’re becoming.” Hal Elrod

Inhale Intuition, Exhale Uncertainty…
Inhale Instinct, Exhale Doubt…
Inhale Courage, Exhale Cowardice…
Just Breathe…

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Experience

Our own experience is crucial to our development. The positive experiences reinforce behavior and the negative experiences teach us what not to do, if we are able to learn from them.

But it takes awareness to recognize the patterns that lead to negative outcomes and see the possibility of something different.

It takes courage to take responsibility for the choice and choose something different.

It takes hope to understand the consequence of the choice and want something different.

Inhale Awareness, Exhale Oblivion…
Inhale Courage, Exhale Status quo
Inhale Hope, Exhale Despair…
Just Breathe…

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