I am a Jalen Hurts fan. Despite losing the starting position he owned in 2016 and 2017, the Alabama quarterback has continued to demonstrate the type of leadership experts write about but we seldom witness, especially in one so young.
He has put team first.
He has celebrated his teammates’ success even when that success overshadowed his own.
He has demonstrated integrity while ignoring the external chatter.
He has stayed the course he committed to as a high school junior.
He has fully committed to the team’s goals even if it meant sacrificing his own.
To the extent that you can learn from leaders unfit for leadership, the current administration is a potential goldmine of lessons in how NOT to lead.
I’ve been struck lately by the theme of loyalty; loyalty demanded by #45 to him from those responsible for leading our country’s institution. Their loyalty, of course, should be to the institutions they lead and to the American people.
That not withstanding, loyalty is a lot like respect and trust; it has to be given by the leader to be received by the leader.
A friend expressed sadness over #45’s reaction to the latest school shooting, wishing desperately that “just once” there would be a more presidential response. I think he was looking for some demonstrated empathy.
When we are plugged in to the Source of All Knowing, All Power and All Creation, when we pay attention to how we are being in the world, when we care how our actions are impacting others and our universe, then we make choices that will benefit the whole.
“A bad motive can’t achieve a good end; double-talk brings you double trouble.” Proverbs 17: 20 MSG
I suspect the one third of Americans who still approve of #45 is the same one third who frequently invite the one third they’ve identified as the “others” to just leave America. Or if they stay, to be denied full access to citizenship, preferably while serving time or detained in an ICE center….and servicing the government for free. OR be exterminated.
And if the remaining one third is disengaged, that could happen.
“Throughout history, it has been the inaction of those who could have acted; the indifference of those who should have known better; the silence of the voice of justice when it mattered most; that has made it possible for evil to triumph.” ~ Haile Selassie
“Relationships fail when people take their own insecurities and project them as their partner’s flaws.” ~ Steve Maraboli
When the person you’re with is feeling insecure and making their fears about your flaws, maybe it’s time to reassure them that your love is accepting of their fears, their flaws…their failures. Or not…
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 NIV
Everyday there seems to be a new executive action designed to divide, separate and isolate Americans from each other and from a suffering world. While our reality president is focused on ratings, I’m focusing on the Americans offering their talents, their time, their treasure…their love to those who need it most.
“We, though, are going to love—love and be loved. First we were loved, now we love. He loved us first.” 1 John 4: 19, The Message
The dreams that you have, the desires placed on your heart, the emotions you experience in response to events are there for a reason. They are showing you bits of your destiny…what your world can look like if you step into the fullness of who you are…and how stepping into your purpose can impact your larger community, even the world.
“If your dream only includes you, it’s too small.” ~ Ava DuVernay, director of Selma
I admit, I have struggled to stay positive in the face of so much injustice, so much hypocrisy … so much inhumanity. I haven’t been able to watch the videoed violence against black bodies, seemingly a new one each week, but like most people of color at least, each incident has impacted my sense of security. It’s personal…it’s frustrating…it’s heartbreaking.
I weep at night for the families and friends directly impacted. I look at the faces of the black people I see on the train and wonder…”How are you doing? How are you coping with the trauma?”
And then I remember that “suffering is inevitable for human beings as long as we believe that things last—that they don’t disintegrate, that they can be counted on to satisfy our hunger for security.” ~ Pema Chodron.