Martyr Syndrome

Have you ever watched someone on your team take over a project and then complain about having to do it all? Here’s the thing about doing it all, all the time: others will let you take the burden and won’t hesitate to take some of the credit. So if you don’t want to do it, DON’T!

“The martyr operates on the assumption that he or she knows best and has THE answer rather than an answer.” ~ David Emerald, cofounder of the Bainbridge Leadership Center.

Inhale Taking Responsibility, Exhale Taking Over…
Inhale Ownership, Exhale Martyrdom…
Inhale Inspire, Exhale De-incentivize …
Just Breathe

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American Nightmare 2

Tulsa Massacre: white mobs destroyed 1,256 homes, 191 businesses, left over 10,000 homeless & 300 dead.

Maybe at some point, Americans will recognize that unchecked, unabated hate is also often unfocused…

Until we are all free, we are none of us free.” ~ Emma Lazarus, who also wrote the words on the Statue of Liberty

 

Inhale Humanity, Exhale Apathy…
Inhale Ownership, Exhale Excuses…
Inhale Action, Exhale Guilt…
Just Breathe

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Reflections With Renita

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Protect

There is a fine line between the boundaries that help us own what belongs to us and the borders that keep everybody and most emotions at bay. Healthy boundaries can protect us from ourselves. Borders and emotional walls can prevent us from experiencing humanity… others’ and our own.

Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that. Don’t be impressed with yourself. Don’t compare yourself with others. Each of you must take responsibility for doing the creative best you can with your own life.” Galations 6: 4-5

Inhale Boundaries, Exhale Borders…
Inhale Protection, Exhale Overexposed…
Inhale Ownership, Exhale Blame…
Just Breathe

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Reflections With Renita

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Representative Self

Have you ever heard something about another person that was totally contrary to your own experience? I believe part of that is because the energy we exude impacts how others interact with us. So my (mostly positive) energy elicits a totally different reaction than someone else’s energy.

Or maybe the person in question hasn’t discovered and/or decided who they want to be …

“I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do.” Romans 7:15 NIV

Inhale Ownership, Exhale Irresponsibility…
Inhale Intention, Exhale Unconsciousness…
Inhale Focused, Exhale Meandering…
Just Breathe

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Reflections With Renita

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It’s Your Journey…

I’m a fitness instructor with bad knees. My clients are often surprised to see me taking an elevator instead of the stairs after a class. I don’t take the stairs because walking up and especially down stairs puts a lot of strain on my knees. I save my knees for demonstrating the best form when I’m teaching and being in the best form when I’m taking class.

Allison’s last class.

My knees let me know when I’ve gone too far. My knees are the reason I challenge my clients to push themselves to THEIR limit versus what I might think they can do. Because each client is the only one who really knows if they’re pushing to their limit, challenging what’s comfortable and living up to their potential.

In life as in fitness, you are the only one who knows if you’re giving it your best shot or just coasting. And you’re the only one you have to please.

The journey to wholeness requires that you look honestly, openly, and with courage into yourself, into the dynamics that lie behind what you feel, what you perceive, what you value, and how you act.” ~ Gary Zukav

Inhale Ownership, Exhale Irresponsibility…
Inhale Responsibility, Inauthenticity…
Inhale Honesty, Exhale Inaccuracy…
Just Breathe

#JustBreathe
Reflections With Renita

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