Reconciliation

We often tie forgiveness and reconciliation together. But forgiveness and reconciliation are separate processes. Forgiveness is something each of us can do on our own. Reconciliation requires the participation of another person or entity.

True reconciliation cannot happen without forgiveness. But we can forgive and consciously determine reconciliation is not possible…

True reconciliation is never cheap, for it is based on forgiveness which is costly. Forgiveness in turn depends on repentance, which has to be based on an acknowledgment of what was done wrong, and therefore on disclosure of the truth. You cannot forgive what you do not know.” ~ Desmond Tutu

Inhale Forgiveness, Exhale Forgetting…
Inhale Reconciliation, Exhale Resentment…
Inhale Boundaries, Exhale Enabling…
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Vengeance

One of my favorite shows is OWN’s “Greenleaf” which follows the deeds and misdeeds of a family leading a mega-church in the south.

The midseason cliffhanger saw the primary character in a life and death struggle with the show’s primary villain. Her inability to forgive led her to interpret her antagonist’s actions incorrectly, which led to heightened emotions (in this case panic), which led to actions that may lead to results contrary to what she wants.

She has looked for peace in his punishment, but peace can only come through forgiveness…

Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.” Matthew 18: 21-22, MSG

Inhale Forgiveness, Exhale Punishment…
Inhale Peace, Exhale Revenge…
Inhale Truth, Exhale Vengeance…
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Divine Forgiveness

Forgive and forget.”

You’ve heard this adage, which, I believe, really speaks to a higher-level consciousness that many of us find difficult to achieve. Biblical passages like those in Hebrews and Isaiah assure us that God “blots” our sins, or “ wipes the slate clean” of our sins, or doesn’t “keep a list” of our sins. For most of us humans, the idea that we must forget an offense to truly forgive the offender sometimes stops the whole process.

But forgiving does not mean having to forget the offense or deny it happened or to ignore the real feelings that it generated. Forgiving may mean that we simply have to think differently about what happened, change the feelings about what we think and modify how we act.

Forgiving may require that we overlook what has happened.

Inhale Letting Go, Exhale Holding On…
Inhale Overlooking, Exhale Condoning…
Inhale Forgive, Exhale Excuse…
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Complete

Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” ~ Carl Jung.

People who aren’t whole are always looking for someone else to approve what they are doing, how they look… who they are. But there is nothing external to you that can complete who you are; you have to achieve wholeness on your own.

I am a Divine, magnificent expression of life, and deserve the very best. I accept miracles. I accept healing. I accept wholeness. And most of all, I accept myself. I am precious, and I cherish who I am.” ~ Louise Hay

Inhale Wholeness, Exhale Control…
Inhale Surrender, Exhale Struggle…
Inhale Acceptance, Exhale Resistance…
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Signs

I get why it’s so hard for us to admit we were wrong about something or someone. Trusting, believing and being proven wrong can cause us question our judgment, our discernment.

At least that’s what I experienced after a failed relationship. But I finally realized I didn’t miss the signs, I misunderstood what I saw.

My son, do not let wisdom and understanding out of your sight, preserve sound judgment and discretion; they will be life for you, an ornament to grace your neck.” ~ Proverbs 3: 21-22  NIV

Inhale Wisdom, Exhale Oblivion…
Inhale Discernment, Exhale Disregard…
Inhale Understanding, Exhale Unconsciousness…
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Experience

Our own experience is crucial to our development. The positive experiences reinforce behavior and the negative experiences teach us what not to do, if we are able to learn from them.

But it takes awareness to recognize the patterns that lead to negative outcomes and see the possibility of something different.

It takes courage to take responsibility for the choice and choose something different.

It takes hope to understand the consequence of the choice and want something different.

Inhale Awareness, Exhale Oblivion…
Inhale Courage, Exhale Status quo
Inhale Hope, Exhale Despair…
Just Breathe…

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Acceptance

I believe our God given gifts and talents and personality are to be used to achieve our purpose. But whether or not we use those gifts, apply our personalities or achieve our purpose is up to each of us based on our personal beliefs. It’s no one else’s business

Grace says you have nothing to give, nothing to earn nothing to pay.” Charles R. Swindoll

Inhale Acceptance, Exhale Rejection…
Inhale Embrace, Exhale Tolerate…
Inhale Grace, Exhale Judgment…
Just Breathe…

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Wiser

What we ingest, consume, or absorb either helps us stretch and grow or keeps us stuck and stunted…guides us to wisdom or leads us to death.

What are you taking in?

Eat honey, dear child—it’s good for you—and delicacies that melt in your mouth. Likewise knowledge, and wisdom for your soul—get that and your future’s secured, your hope is on solid rock.” Proverbs 24: 13-14 MSG

Inhale Wisdom, Exhale Stagnation…
Inhale Growing, Exhale Stalled…
Inhale Maturing, Exhale Stunted…
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Older

I was accused of being set in my ways because I chose not to do something I didn’t want to do.

While it may be true that some people get “set” or stagnant as we age, I believe many of us get wise…we know more about who we are, we understand better what works for us, and we avoid what gives us gas.

We learn how and when to say no.

Blessed are those who find wisdom, those who gain understanding,” Proverbs 3:13 NIV

Inhale Wisdom, Exhale Wavering…
Inhale Understanding, Exhale Uncertainty…
Inhale Confidence, Exhale Confusion…
Just Breathe…

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Everyday Values

It’s not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are.” ~ Roy E. Disney.

If you say you value integrity, SHOULDN”T you be where you say you’re going to be, when you say you’re going to be there…do what you say you’re going to do, when you say you are going to do it…you know, be accountable to yourself?

Asking for a friend…

Inhale Integrity, Exhale Excuses…
Inhale Commitment, Exhale Guilt…
Inhale Accountability, Exhale Anxiety…
Just Breathe…

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