Legacy of Hate

When I see old images where hate is clearly emanating from easily identifiable faces, I wonder about their descendants…do they know PawPaw and MeMaw were full blown racists? And if they do, what do they think? How do they feel? What do they say?

Let angry people endure the backlash of their own anger; if you try to make it better, you’ll only make it worse.” Proverbs 19:19, MSG

Inhale Truth, Exhale Revision…
Inhale Truth, Exhale Illusion…
Inhale Truth, Exhale Anger…
Just Breathe

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Fair and Balanced

I read an article last week that included an interesting poll that compared the negative press of #45 with three of his predecessors. The article suggested that the overwhelmingly negative reporting (from even Faux News) was a result of some bias, that there should have been more balance.

That comparison reminds me of the comments made by #45 that there were “very fine people on both sides,” of the violence that erupted after hate groups, ostensibly protesting the removal of a statue, but chanting “You will not replace us/Jews will not replace us” clashed with anti-hate groups.

It’s a way to normalize the hate by suggest that it’s the reporting not the behavior that is negative.

Inhale Truth, Exhale False Equivalence…
Inhale Truth, Exhale Alternative Facts…
Inhale Truth, Exhale Bold Faced Lies…
Just Breathe

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Relationship Fail #4

When you share all your tricks to attract the opposite sex with the person you’re seeing, maybe it’s not a good idea to try and use said tricks to manipulate that person.

Truth is true in all places and times and applies to all people.” ~ Buddha

Inhale True, Exhale Fake…
Inhale Truth, Exhale Tricks…
Inhale Trust, Exhale Deception…
Just Breathe

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Compassion

Have you ever watched someone you’re close to make a stupid choice and wondered, “Why can’t she see this is NOT going to turn out well?”

I’ve done that…and then I remember the stupid thing I did when I didn’t pay attention to my accountability partners or my own inner knowing…my God voice whispering, then shouting… “Don’t. Do It!”

And I work on being a little more compassionate…

It’s easy to see a smudge on your neighbor’s face and be oblivious to the ugly sneer on your own. Do you have the nerve to say, ‘Let me wash your face for you,’ when your own face is distorted by contempt?” Matthew 7: 3-4 MSG

Inhale Compassion, Exhale Judgment…
Inhale Compassion, Exhale Hypocrisy…
Inhale Compassion, Exhale Contempt…
Just Breathe

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Core Self

I have a tendency to see the good in people and I’m somewhat surprised when people behave in ways that are contrary to my experience of them. I’ve learned that often, bad behavior is in response to fear… something we believe about ourselves, or something we believe we can’t have or something we have but don’t want.

What we believe about who we are at our core will eventually surface.

Most bad behavior is about that person’s core fears about themselves; it is rarely about you.” ~ Kimberly Giles

Inhale Truth, Exhale Fear…
Inhale Realness, Exhale Fakeness…
Inhale Authenticity, Exhale Duplicity…
Just Breathe

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Core Love

If we are connected to others from a place of truth, is there space for jealousy? If we understand the truth of who we are at our core, can we speak negatively about another? If we believe in a Higher Power, is it necessary to take on the responsibility of judging someone else’s truth?

The mind judges what is good or bad. Love brings only good.” ~ Deepak Chopra

Inhale Love, Exhale Jealousy…
Inhale Love, Exhale Attack…
Inhale Love, Exhale Vengeance…
Just Breathe

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Vengeance

One of my favorite shows is OWN’s “Greenleaf” which follows the deeds and misdeeds of a family leading a mega-church in the south.

The midseason cliffhanger saw the primary character in a life and death struggle with the show’s primary villain. Her inability to forgive led her to interpret her antagonist’s actions incorrectly, which led to heightened emotions (in this case panic), which led to actions that may lead to results contrary to what she wants.

She has looked for peace in his punishment, but peace can only come through forgiveness…

Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.” Matthew 18: 21-22, MSG

Inhale Forgiveness, Exhale Punishment…
Inhale Peace, Exhale Revenge…
Inhale Truth, Exhale Vengeance…
Just Breathe

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Correction

Good or bad, we often expect our closets friends and family to co-sign our actions. And when they do, we love their loyalty, and when they don’t, we decry their betrayal.

But is the person who agrees with our negative behavior really a friend? And is the person who calls us out for behaving badly truly an enemy?

Inhale Love, Exhale Pretense…
Inhale Truth, Exhale Deceit…
Inhale Authenticity, Exhale Insincerity…
Just Breathe…

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Gut Feeling

Healthy fear is part of our survival mechanism. Our intricately designed bodies have more than one way to notify us of danger. That gut feeling, the hair prickling on your arm or the back of your neck….it’s your body notifying you of danger that you can’t see or hear. It’s a knowing from the oldest part of our brain, the limbic system, which has no language. It’s why we often can’t articulate that feeling that says STOP.

The issue is NOT that we don’t have the feeling, it’s that we don’t acknowledge our own knowing. The issue is we are often unable to separate the knowledge-based feeling of danger from the fear-based feeling. And so we move forward when our knowing is screaming “You in danger, Gurl” and are paralyzed when our fear is whispering…”WHO are YOU to do THAT?”

Fear is not real. It is a product of thoughts you create. Do not misunderstand me. Danger is very real. But fear is a choice.” Will Smith in After Earth. Tweet this now!

Inhale Truth, Exhale Fear…
Inhale Power, Exhale Paralysis…
Inhale Knowing, Exhale Doubting…
Just Breathe…

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One Step…

“If I take,
Just one step,
He will do the rest…” Donald Vails

Every version of “The Hero’s Journey” story, features a scene when the hero takes one giant, scary step of faith into the unknown or battles his fear in the face of a tremendous, potentially life-ending threat. In “Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade”, our hero is guided to a deep chasm with no visible way to get to the other side. He calls on his faith, steps out into the abyss… and on to the bridge, which magically appears underneath his foot. crusades1

That’s the kind of courage that can force us forward in the face of fear, the kind of confidence that can compel us to step into what we can’t see… the kind of conviction that we can trust what we know to be true despite evidence to the contrary.

It’s the kind of faith we’re asked to have in order to live the lives we’re called to live.

Inhale Courage, Exhale Doubt…
Inhale Belief, Exhale Doubt…
Inhale Truth, Exhale Doubt…
Just Breathe…

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