They had both created narratives around their mother’s absence based on incorrect information and these competing, incomplete stories had prevented them from moving forward in healing their relationship. Their realities
The realities taught to us may prevent us from empathizing with the experience of those with whom we share neither race or gender. The whitewashed "history" of the United States most of us learned in an education system that values White supremacy, has made it easy for some Americans to accept as fact the manufactured reality spouted by those currently holding political power in our country. Their ability to dismiss even video evidence that contradicts their reality is an alarming example of how our perceptions of reality are impacted by our own blind spots, biases, and bigotry.
Our reality sometimes prevents us from seeing our own experiences clearly. I’ve learned that everything I think I know about myself is really just a part of my story, developed over time in response to my interpretation about what was happening to me. And I find that when I look closely, when I pull the pieces apart, when I seek clarity about certain aspects, sometimes the narrative and what I have identified as reality changes.
Our willingness to take a closer look at ouselves individually and collectively is how we grow.
“We live, embrace and put to rest our dearest things, including how we see ourselves, so we can resurrect our lives anew.” ~ Mark Nepo, The Book of Awakening