Clear Narrative

I’ve learned that everything I think I know about myself is really just a part of my story, developed over time in response to my interpretation about what was happening to me. And I find that when I look closely, when I pull the pieces apart, when I seek clarity about certain aspects, sometimes the narrative changes.

“We live, embrace and put to rest our dearest things, including how we see ourselves, so we can resurrect our lives anew.” ~ Mark Nepo, The Book of Awakening

Inhale Examination, Exhale Assumptions…
Inhale Clarity, Exhale Story…
Inhale Reality, Exhale False Narrative…
Just Breathe


False Assumptions

I was puzzled by a client’s insistence that she didn’t already have what she needed to gain the accreditation she wanted … that her credentials were too old…that she needed more proof of her qualifications.

When I challenged her, she assured me “they” wouldn’t accept her training or experience. She was so sure she even challenged my challenge to her false (as it turned out to be) assumption.

I understand where she was coming from. Her surety was based on her previous experience with and understanding of the dominant culture.

But she was allowing her assumptions about what “they” would or wouldn’t permit stop her from taking the first step to achieving her dreams. We can no longer do that.

“You were born into a society which spelled out with brutal clarity…that you were a worthless human being. You were not expected to aspire to excellence: you were expected to make peace with mediocrity.” ~ James Baldwin, The Fire Next Time

Inhale Facts, Exhale Assumptions…
Inhale Verification, Exhale Surety…
Inhale What We Want, Exhale What We Don’t Want…
Just Breathe



I recently had a really clear instance of being triggered by the memory of a bad experience. And because our bodies can’t always tell the difference between a thought and reality, my body reacted as if it was happening in real time. In an instant, joy and hope were temporarily replaced by despair and fear.

Temporary because I recognized what was happening and quickly took action so I wouldn’t get stuck where I was. After some prayer and deep, deep breathing, I was able to get to a state of equilibrium and peace. For that, I’m so grateful.

Life is a creative process and our thoughts, beliefs, assumptions, choices, actions, and words are the tools that we use to invent our experiences and our circumstances.” ~ Katherine Woodward Thomas

Inhale Responding, Exhale Reacting…
Inhale Action, Exhale Stuck…
Inhale Creation, Exhale Victimization…
Just Breathe

Reflections With Renita