Influence is Relational

Leadership is influence. But influence outside of relationship is almost impossible. So this mission-oriented, borderline introvert had to step out of my comfort zone to find the relationship approach that authentically worked for my personality and allowed me to connect with the folks I was privileged to lead.

That meant one-on-one, or small group interactions, which allowed me to be really engaged with each individual.

“People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.” ~ John Maxwell

Inhale Relationship, Exhale Isolation…
Inhale Influence, Exhale Intimidation…
Inhale Leadership, Exhale Incompetence…
Just Breathe

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Relationship Fail #5

When you’re constantly making excuses for your boo’s behavior … fighting to stay in the relationship … giving your significant other multiple chances to act right, maybe you should consider he/she just might be all wrong…for you.

“If you can love the wrong person that much, imagine how much you can love the right one.” ~Anonymous

Inhale Love, Exhale Excuses…
Inhale Love, Exhale Struggle…
Inhale Love, Exhale Strife…
Just Breathe

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Reflections With Renita

Relationship Fail #4

When you share all your tricks to attract the opposite sex with the person you’re seeing, maybe it’s not a good idea to try and use said tricks to manipulate that person.

“Truth is true in all places and times and applies to all people.” ~ Buddha

Inhale True, Exhale Fake…
Inhale Truth, Exhale Tricks…
Inhale Trust, Exhale Deception…
Just Breathe

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Reflections With Renita

Relationship Fail #3

When you insist on having a conversation with Person A about the text message you received from Person B, it might be a good time to turn in your playa card.

Just an observation…

“When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. But when I became an adult, I set aside childish ways.” 1 Corinthians 13:11

Inhale Self Awareness, Exhale Delusion…
Inhale Reality, Exhale Illusion…
Inhale Clarity, Exhale Confusion…
Just Breathe

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Reflections With Renita

Relationship Fail #2

When the person you are with consistently behaves in a way that indicates he/she really doesn’t want to be in your life, maybe you should allow them to leave.

“The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.” ~ Ernest Hemingway

Inhale Actuality, Exhale Fantasy…
Inhale Clarity, Exhale Ambiguity…
Inhale Discernment, Exhale Indecision…
Just Breathe

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Reflections With Renita

Relationship Fails

“Relationships fail when people take their own insecurities and project them as their partner’s flaws.” ~ Steve Maraboli

When the person you’re with is feeling insecure and making their fears about your flaws, maybe it’s time to reassure them that your love is accepting of their fears, their flaws…their failures. Or not…

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 NIV

Inhale Patience, Exhale Ego…
Inhale Protection, Exhale Exploitation…
Inhale Perseverance, Exhale Indifference…
Just Breathe

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Reflections With Renita